An Open Letter on My 40th Birthday

Dear 20 year old me,

I know that sounds weird but I figure we always write birthday letters to our kids why not write one to ourselves. So, here I am just a few hours left until we say goodbye to our 30’s and hello 40’s. Not sure when it happened…this whole adult thing – but it did!

Thank you for running every morning, eating well and even those involuntary vegetarian years. You’ll be happy to know that we’re healthy! But, you might want to lay off the cheese – for cholesterol reasons. You have a great family and some amazing kids. Oh, spoiler alert that boy that keeps pulling you along right now – doesn’t get the girl [you]. I’m not going to spoil who you end up with but you’ll meet him in the most unconventional way and you’ll leave him standing at an airport departure gate. Don’t worry – I already told you that you guys will end up together. So whatever you do – don’t turn back or you’ll miss one of the best experiences of your life.

Life right now is a bit weird. There’s a pandemic that has affected the whole world and we are all adapting to new normals. I know this might sound silly but enjoy mask free days, wear sunscreen daily and start doing weekly facial masks.

There’s also a movement against police brutality and guess what? There is a massive exhibit of solidarity. Warning though, you will sometimes feel overwhelmed – because sometimes, solidarity especially via social media will look like an ongoing obituary. Do not be afraid to unplug – to mentally replenish and do not feel guilty for seeking joy during these times.

Other than that, life is pretty good! It’s not always going to be smooth sailing. The road isn’t always going to be clear but you’ll get through it, just keep moving! They’ll be times when you’ll think your life is over, it isn’t! They’ll be people you thought were your friends who will hurt you, forgive them – some will be your biggest allies in the future. You’ll have some hard decisions to make but, if I learned anything about us, it’s that we can do hard things!

I hope I haven’t scared you because although we have our share of lows there is an abundance of highs. But you can handle the highs just fine on your own. Please know that it’s the highs and lows together that make us who we are. We are strong. We are independent, hard working and we do hard things so brace yourself because there’s going to be a very big accident and guess what – all the hardships in your life is what will help get you through it. You’ll be scared but sometimes fear isn’t a bad thing. Sometimes fear pushes us to keep on moving and it’s important that you do because what’s on the other side is growth. By the way, the accident will also be a blessing in disguise. You probably won’t see it that way at first but trust me – it is! Embrace the days sooner, enjoy the time you have with your family sooner and accept help without feeling guilty – there are a lot of good people who genuinely want to help you and your family.